Slide How can I help my children with domestic abuse HOW CAN I HELP
A survivor of domestic abuse has all
too often made lots of attempts to shield
their children from the abuse.

talking to your children about what has happened can be scary

but children may need to talk to help them make sense of what has happened.

Children can experience both short and long term emotional effects as a result of witnessing domestic abuse. The response to this may be different for each child and how they exhibit the impact of this trauma may not be easy to identify. They may feel powerless, angry or confused.

The information below may help in how you approach your child about the abuse they may have witnessed and some indicators that your child is suffering the effects of witnessing domestic abuse.

the impact of domestic abuse on children
and young people

These are some of the effects described in a briefing by the Royal College of Psychiatrists (2004):

They may become anxious or depressed

They have nightmares or flashbacks

They may complain of physical symptoms such as tummy aches and may start to wet their bed

They may behave as though they are much younger than they are

They may become aggressive or they may internalise their distress and withdraw from other people

They may have difficulty sleeping

They can be easily startled

They may have temper tantrums and problems with school

They may have a lowered sense of self-worth

Older children may begin to play truant, start to use alcohol or drugs, begin to self-harm by taking overdoses or cutting themselves or have an eating disorder

helpful advice on how to talk to your children

do talk to your children

Listen to what they have to say. A child will appreciate the opportunity to talk about their feelings. Do not push this, they may need some extra time before they feel safe to talk.

encourage them to talk about their feelings

Consider an activity such as drawing.  Maybe speak with their teacher for support.

explain that abuse is wrong

Be honest and use age-appropriate language so as not to frighten them. 

praise them

This will help their self-esteem.

explain how they can access information for themselves

There are projects that support young people and children online. The hideout link has information and quizzes that may be useful.

seek help and support

This is not easy to do and you may feel like you need support.  Be honest with your children about this as this may encourage them to agree to support if needed.

here are links to better understand domestic abuse that may help children and young people.

Please follow the link for referrals if you would like support from LDAS

or call us on
0151 263 7474

LDAS support.

our services are delivered by qualified and experienced staff who are experts in domestic abuse.

The approach to how we deliver our support is reviewed by survivors who tell us what works and what doesn’t. This ensures we deliver the best possible support to survivors in way that suits their needs.

Click on the links below for more information.

one to one support

Your dedicated support worker will listen to you and help create a safety and support plan and provide external advocacy to get you to where to you need to be to live a life free from abuse.


Your counsellor will work with you on weekly or fortnightly basis (dependent on you needs) this is usually for an hour. They can help you recover from the trauma you have endured.

group programmes

Our programmes provide a supportive environment which allow you to share and recover from your experiences whilst developing further understanding of your experiences.


Your dedicated Bridge Mentor will work with you at your pace. They are able support you to navigate what can often seem like complex systems to ensure you live in safe home and look forward to a happy future.

"My children were offered support and they needed it. My eldest did not want to speak to anyone at all and would walk away whenever we tried to talk about it. I wasn’t offered the same support at the time..."

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