Slide Am i in an abusive relationship? AM I IN AN ABUSIVE
Sometimes it is difficult to understand
what is happening in a relationship
and it is not always clear to see that you
may be in a relationship that is abusive.

arguments can happen
in any relationship

but in a respectful and equal relationship, both partners are free to state their opinions, to make their own decisions. If you cannot do this, you may be in abusive relationship.

It can be difficult to know if you are in an abusive relationship and so we have provided a series of questions below to help you determine if the relationship you are in is abusive. In many cases the questions apply when the relationship has ended. 

if you can answer ‘yes‘ to any of the below questions, this may indicate you are experiencing abuse.

Has your partner stopped you, or tried to stop you from seeing family and friends?

Does your partner accuse you of flirting or having affairs?

Does your partner constantly belittle you, criticise you and make you feel like you’re a bad parent?

Has your partner deliberately damaged your property?

Does your partner control the finances making decisions on what money you have control of meaning you often struggle to buy food for you and your children?

Does your partner check up on where you are or follow you?

Are you afraid of your partner?

Does your partner pressure you into sexual acts when you do not want to?

Has your partner made it difficult for you to attend school, college or work?

Do you change your behaviour out of fear when with your partner?

Does your partner withhold medication? Or force you to use substances such as drugs or alcohol.

please contact LDAS for support if you feel you have suffered abuse.

Abuse is not always easy to identify and can be gradual and not as clear as you would think. All too often the abuser can explain their behaviour away and convince you there is an excuse for what they do. If you haven’t had many relationships it can also be difficult to understand what is ‘normal’. There is no excuse for abuse and you are not to blame for what is happening or has happened to you.

If you are professional please follow the referral link and complete a professional referral contact form.

If you are a survivor and need advice or support then please follow the referral link and complete a short contact form so we can make safe contact with you. Or call the service on 0151 263 7474 and one of the team will speak to you.

LDAS support.

our services are delivered by qualified and experienced staff who are experts in domestic abuse.

The approach to how we deliver our support is reviewed by survivors who tell us what works and what doesn’t. This ensures we deliver the best possible support to survivors in way that suits their needs.

Click on the links below for more information.

one to one support

Your dedicated support worker will listen to you and help create a safety and support plan and provide external advocacy to get you to where to you need to be to live a life free from abuse.


Your counsellor will work with you on weekly or fortnightly basis (dependent on you needs) this is usually for an hour. They can help you recover from the trauma you have endured.

group programmes

Our programmes provide a supportive environment which allow you to share and recover from your experiences whilst developing further understanding of your experiences.


Your dedicated Bridge Mentor will work with you at your pace. They are able support you to navigate what can often seem like complex systems to ensure you live in safe home and look forward to a happy future.

“It was so hard; we had a family, and we had some good times. It was not bad every day. But the waiting for it was, waiting for it to turn bad was torture. I couldn’t figure out what was happening day to day and was sinking. I know this was all a part of it now. Living on edge was my living.”

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